What Kind of Person Does That To A Kid? A Baby? An Animal?
No abuser’s ignorance or era or condition excuses her behavior any more than her treatment of us gives us license to abuse other people. ~Eamon Dolan
Fourteen years ago, I severed communication with my mother after she called to wish me a happy birthday and then proceeded to ask me if I wanted her to send the hateful letters written about me when I was 10 years old as a school monitor – seems the gestapo-like behaviors I learned from my mother didn’t positively affect the younger school children and they expressed their feelings in letters addressed to me, which my mother kept for some unknown reason. I declined and called her out for her cruelty (why would anyone want to read a letter professing hate for the reader?). Phone calls and e-mails from my siblings, aunts, and even a sister-in-law in the subsequent months revealed my mother called them in tears claiming she was so upset and didn’t mean to hurt me (my mother found the letters humorous) only confirmed my decision that of course, my mother would make herself the victim in his scenario instead of realizing she was the aggressor and the bully whose abusive behavior would no longer be tolerated. Read more 
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